Tips On How To Divorce PeacefullySeptember 19, 2019
As parents we all hear our children say this phrase, “I can’t do this!” whether it is while they are potty training or doing geometry homework. Unfortunately we may also hear them say, “I’m stupid, fat, ugly, and/or unpopular,” as they get older if we don’t teach them how to be confident when they are young. How can we help our children become the little engine that could, instead of the teen or adult that can’t? As parents we can raise confident children with a strong sense of self esteem creating confident and resilient adults by remembering these ten tips for raising confident children.
Again Dee and Pat sat me down for a good chat. What did I have to lose? I was in a masters program that I found was okay but not really what I was looking for so what harm would it do to reapply to the program that I really wanted?
Hello, my name is Evelyn Lopez and I am a clinical psychologist. When I was in school, I took more interest in humanities than I did in science. As my school life started nearing its end, I decided that I would study Psychology that would help me explore human behavior.
All this requires fortitude and focus on the goal and not allowing the day to day irritations to get to you. In my training and experiences as a Life Coach and a parent, I learnt to practice the art of Responding versus Reacting. A reaction is automatic, not thought through consequentially, whereas a response is chosen. Between an action and its reaction there is a space, and in that space is the opportunity to choose. Responding is using that space to make that choice and to do or say what will get you closer to your goal rather than away from it. In your dealings with your ex spouse, always remind yourself that your goal is having a working and pleasant relationship with them and it is your goal because of what it’s going to bring YOU. Not just your child.
Why is it profoundly powerful? The reason is because I have used it in my own life to transform shyness and change a habit which I’d peformed daily for the past 20 years!
If you would like to maintain the perfect marriage, you have to try your best. Regrettably, there are many married couples who drift apart after the initial excitement or the so-called honeymoon period, the marriages grow stale most often, and some couples end up breaking up or divorce. This starts when the realities of life sink in. Priorities often shift into children and the home, financial and career responsibilities take over and more often, partners feel neglected thus boredom of married life creeps in. Many couples wait for many years before seeking voxen for marital problems. You should seek help early before everything is too late.
Dr. Rick Hanson PH.D says that about 90% of what enables divorced parents to work well together is exactly what enables married parents to work well together, including personal well-being, insight into oneself, emotional openness, civility, empathy, goodwill, clarity about the values and principles that guide parenting practices, and skill at negotiating practical arrangements. The other 10% has to do with things like keeping one’s feelings about the divorce compartmentalised away from the business of co-parenting, working out the details of money, custody, vacations, grandparents and integrating new friends/lovers/mates. Employing the services of a Life Coach can make this a lot easier.
Couples should not worry when they are going to couple counselling. If they find themselves anxious they should try some relaxation techniques before they go. They could try deep breathing exercises, yoga, or listening to their favorite song. The most important thing is that people do what works best for them.